Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Last night I felt compelled to watch a foreign movie, a love story, called Veer-Zaara.
At first I wasn't sure what I had gotten myself into and if I could get past the singing, but I loved watching the beauty with which Indian women express themselves. It's truly blissful to watch.
The story takes place between Pakistan and India between an Indian rescue pilot, a squadron leader with the Indian Air Force, Veer, and a wealthy daughter, Zaara, from Pakistan who was engaged to be married (for political reasons).
Veer and Zaara can't be together since she is just a few days from getting married. And as Zaara returns to Pakistan, Veer tells her to never forget that he was just across the border and that he would give his life to save hers.
Just a few days later he gets his chance to bring honor to that promise...although not quite dead but in jail for 22 years during which he doesn't speak in order to protect the beautiful Zaara. Rotting in hell with everyone believing he had died in a tragic bus accident, his case gets reopened by a young female attorney from Pakistan, after 22 years.
The character this man plays and the honor he brings to his promise is simply exemplary. The same goes for Zaara (but I can't tell you too much in case you want to watch the movie).
I asked myself if I could have done what they did, what he did, what she did. Would I be this strong? This dedicated? This solid?
And I believe love conquers all things and love never fails - so yes, true love could do all that!Enjoy!
Monday, November 15, 2010
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at 1:54 PM
Sunday, November 7, 2010
My girlfriend sent this to me this morning and how appropriate to share this with you!
"I just finished taking an evening class at Stanford. The last lecture was on the mind-body connection-the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker (head of psychology at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman whereas for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends. At first everyone laughed, but he was serious.
Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. Physically this quality “girlfriend time" helps us to create more serotonin-a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being. Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf? Yes. But their feelings?-rarely. Women do it all of the time. We share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very good for our health. He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.
There's a tendency to think that when we are "exercising" we are doing something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged--not true. In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking! So every time you hang out to schmooze with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health! We are indeed very, very lucky. Sooooo let's toast to our friendship with our girlfriends. Evidently it's very good for our health."
It is my wish for everyone out there to have someone to talk to! As for me personally, I have 2 hours reserved each and every day for an unexpected (or planned) cup of tea with a good friend. It's what keeps me going: friendships.Wishing you all the same!
at 9:38 AM
Thursday, October 28, 2010
I love the wisdom of Ernest Holmes when he says:
"In the long run everyone who loves is loved. All who give joy receive it back. Everything moves in circles, in cycles of cause and effect. More is added to the much we use. When we refuse to use our gifts they shrivel up. The divine flow is short circuited. The one who gives for the joy of giving will receive back even more joy that he gave out. Ever as the volume increases the circle will increase. There can be no point of saturation in that which is infinite."
Or what about one of my favorite spirits in the world, Lao Russell:"Love does not come to you from your horizon, love flows from within you far beyond your horizon."
So it all starts with us after all. We can't point the finger and blame our parents for our misfortune or lack of love. Blame, in fact, has never brought much good anyway. So let's love ourselves, then overflow and love others the same.
Friday, October 15, 2010
September 6th I posted this Mental Checklist to See if He's Interested. You can read it here. To summarize, here are the 10 points from that article:
1. He makes himself available
2. He treats you like you're the prize
3. He pursues you and initiates
4. He finds out everything he can about you
5. He shows his interest with actions
6. He asks you questions
7. He gives you gifts
8. He tries to find ways to please you
9. He moves heaven and earth - or across country - to be with you
10. He announces you to the world and shows you off
These points, of course, are basic, although to some this could be too much. "Is there really a guy that will do ALL THAT for a woman?" you might ask. Ah, yes, and a whole lot more. These are just the basics.
So instead of squeezing a guy into a box and 'making him' to be something that he is not, are there some red flags that you can easily recognize that signal that he's definitely not the one? Yes, there are. Besides the obvious ones, such as cheating, gambling, lying etc., here are some red flags that get easily missed:
I have learned that there are several reasons why men choose to be with a psychopathic woman. They love the abuse, they're suckers for pain, it's like an addiction to them. They love the challenge, they want to change her and make her better. In either case, what you have to ask yourself is how disturbed must he be to attract such a woman in the first place. "Hey, that can happen to anyone, especially if they know how to disguise themselves," you might say. Okay, granted. So eventually this psychopathic woman's facade comes down, as everything does that is fake, why doesn't he choose to leave her on the spot then? What exactly is it in HIM (not her) that makes him stick around? And no, don't give me the speech about loyalty. Loyalty to pain or what? You have to make a choice, based on your questions to him, why a man would willingly choose to have a psychopathic woman in his life. If you are a normally functioning woman and not a psychopath at all, then you will be utterly boring to him. You can't offer him drama, because you function normally. So the question becomes, does he even feel like he's deserving of you? If he ever says anything like: "You're just so good, maybe even too good for me," then RUN. He's telling you that his confidence is shut, that he truly doesn't think highly of himself and he's giving you the confirmation that he really wants to be abused deep down. Of course he won't admit that verbally. But since we're learning to watch actions more than listen to words, this is my challenge for you. Watch the early signs, they're always there.
2. He puts money or business before you
I don't care what men say about this one. When he puts his business or money before you, make your escape. He may be using the most common excuse: "I do it for you, honey, so I can buy you things." BS! It's never true, he does it for himself. What I'm saying is this. If he tells you that he is just not ready to be in a relationship because he really needs to get this business off the ground or his finances are really not where he wants them to be, what he's really saying is that he doesn't mind losing you if you choose to walk, because his business and money ultimately always wins. If he chooses business and money over you before he even is in a dedicated relationship with you, then he will pull the same stunt on you after you've been married to him 20 years later, only worse. A man who truly, truly loves his woman and doesn't want to lose her will know how to find balance between his business, money and his relationship to you. He will always put his relationship with you in the center of his universe and build a business around the two of you. Because he knows that in the end all that's left is the love you share. Anything else is only an excuse. Don't fall for this one ladies!
3. He makes major promises and then later retracts them
Nothing pisses me off more than a person who says one thing and does another. Even the bible says that only fools make promises they are unable to keep. It is better not to make a vow than to later break it. I'm always amazed at how many women overlook this one. It's really simple. A man who says he's going to call you tomorrow morning is going to do so, no ifs, buts, whens - period. A man with a shaky character who says he's going to call you tomorrow morning and then doesn't, has only begun to show you that his word is worth crap. A man of true character (which you can count on) will let his 'yes' be yes and his 'no' be no. Why would you want a man in your life to give you the promise of "I do" when he can't even call you when he said he would? The universe is giving you a major heads-up that his word is not worth gold.
4. He chooses his head over his heart
We are living in a time where intuition for both men and women has become increasingly unclouded. The veil between the worlds has been thinning quite a bit for many and many people are 'seeing' and 'hearing' and 'sensing' things they didn't just a few years ago. Humanity's consciousness is increasing to another level. Logical reasoning often gets overruled by intuitive hits. We do things we don't know why we're doing them but we know it's right for us. And we're usually right. When a man knows in his heart that he should follow his heart but he chooses to overrule his heart, then you have a loser at your hand. Now there are exceptions of course. Let's say you fall in love with a married man and he also is in love with you. His heart tells him that you're the one but out of obligation and his promise to his wife he chooses to do the right thing and not get involved with you (at least not until his affairs are in order) then he's acted out of his strong character. Only a weak man would act on his emotions and hurt many people in the process. But we're not talking about an affair. We're talking about selecting the one life partner you want to live with for the rest of your life. Choosing his head over his heart makes him untrustworthy. A man who loves God, or source, or the divine, or whatever greater power he plugs into to get regenerated, knows that he is always divinely protected and he knows that choosing his head over his heart would cost him dearly, it would eventually cost him true love. You see, everyone at the core wants to find true love. It's the little void that God has reserved in each of our hearts. When a man (or a woman) asks to be shown to true love and then finds it and then chooses that he's not ready for it after all, will never be ready (at least not in this life time). He will always do what Jonah did, run in the other direction. He may play with his emotions (and yours) and say that yes, he wants this, but then a few days, weeks or months later he will get scared again and run. There's nothing worse than a guy who doesn't trust his own heart. If he doesn't, why should you?
5. He chooses to wallow in old, unresolved pain over moving on
Yikes! Men who won't let go of their old baggage! There is nothing more repulsive to me than a man who starts a truly loving relationship only to later retract it because he's realizing that he's still not over his ex-girlfriend. "It's not you, it's me. I'm just not ready," becomes his excuse. Women in this case have been suckered into the relationship, they're in love and they humbly and selflessly say: "Take your time." No, no, no, ladies! This is the Universe telling you that you have a lifetime head start on this guy if you run now. A man who is truly in love will shift everything in his life to be with you. You are the prize. And the last thing a solid guy would do is run back to pick up his old backpack filled with painful bricks. Old relationships that are unresolved are like a millstone around our necks. A guy who has a solid character will grant himself the time he needs to heal from past relationships before starting anything new. He would do that for him but also for you. He would never start a new relationship without having first made sure that he has no unresolved baggage. It would be irresponsible and his character wouldn't allow it. If he has any depth of character he would simply not have it in him. So if you ever hear "I'm just not ready, I thought I was, but I need a little more time," then make your escape immediately. He's not worth it. He's unsolid, untrustworthy, wobbly and frankly, he'll yo-yo you around in many other ways in the future. Heed the hint, free yourself now.
6. He doesn't walk his own talkNothing bothers me more than a person who says one thing, does another but then tells others what they ought to do. Especially those that consider themselves leaders. A man who tells others how screwed up their internal dialogs are and what big monkeys they have on their backs that tell them lies day in and day out and that they ought to get rid of those monkeys and believe that they truly deserve the best (including love) but they themselves have the biggest gorilla on their own backs. Eeewww - a man whose character is solid first and foremost is humble. A man who has been humbled by life circumstances is a diamond in the rough. A man who refuses to be humbled no matter the life circumstances is a time bomb waiting to go off. Do you want to be around when it goes off? Let's look at it this way. None of us have been promised a good life or that it was going to be easy. We have been promised free will, however. What we do when 'bad' things happen is completely up to us. Choosing to work on a character of gold rather than earthly values is a choice. Every diamond has to be refined by fire. Likewise every solid character has to be refined by hell (so to speak). A man who has not been refined by fire (or life's turmoils) or has refused or ignored the very lessons that would allow him to become a diamond in the rough is only a disaster waiting to happen. Life will always have its way with us, either in this life or in the next. We are meant to change, meant to grow and expand. We can do so willingly or unwillingly. The choice is ours. With growth, true growth that burns our character into the solid diamond it is meant to be, comes humility and a whole lot of unconditional love. That's why I love men who have seen their depths more than once in their life, men who have gone through hell once or twice, and have their midlife crisis behind them. A changed man is one of the greatest miracles on earth - in my opinion.
I am realizing that I could go on and on with more points, but I think this blog post is becoming a small book. :-) So I hope I've given you enough pointers for the time being to recognize if the guy you're with is worthy of you and your time.
Remember, ladies, this is not a dress rehearsal - this is your life!
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Thank you everyone for sending e-mails and messages through Facebook, asking when the next post would be. And I also received a personal request to post something very interesting - YES! I will do so as soon as I feel better. I've been going through the ringer just a tad bit these past few weeks. You ever feel like you have good days and then suddenly you hit the ditch again and need to recuperate all over again? Makes it hard to get the writer's juices flowing. I promise I'll be back in no time!
Thank you again for your kindness and your love and all of your concerns.Meanwhile, feel free to join my Facebook Group. It's all about Abundance. Abundance as in wealth, health, relationships, love, connections, business, spirituality - you want it and need it? We got it!
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
If you've been following this blog for a while you know that I work with Mother Nature and the Heavens to the best of my abilities. And this includes the Full Moon and the New Moon cycles.
October 7th is a New Moon and if you remember from reading the Full Moon post, which is to release things from your life, the New Moon cycle until the next Full Moon is the cycle to make your requests.Here is how you can take full advantage of this upcoming New Moon:
- You may want to write a brief sentence at the top of the sheet of paper and address the Universe, thanking it for always protecting you, for working with you, for giving you planets to help you bring things into manifestation.
- Write a list of things you want to attract into your life (be careful what you ask for), keep it short and to the point
- Be mindful, alert and awake and utterly careful of what you ask for - you will attract these things sooner or later. Instead of asking for the Universe to bring you back lost love, which is always a bad idea (they're gone for a reason), ask for the Universe to help you look for love in everything you see and experience. Ask for the heavens to bring you true love by helping you be true love first. As within so without. It can't be otherwise. Ask to be in a state of feeling in love all the time, no matter who you're with or what you're doing. It works! And when you're living a life in love you have no choice but to attract the right life partner to you.
- Yes, this is also the time to ask for materialistic things such as a new car (be specific about make, model, color, etc.) a new job, and new friends
- Do not ask for the Universe to take things away, that's what the Full Moon cycle is for
- Close your letter with a sentence of gratitude for the Universal forces that are at work behind the scenes, shifting planets, mountains and seas to bring you what you want and need.
Put the list outside at night on the 6th and leave it out all day on the 7th to get a cycle of sun (to seed your manifestations) and leave it out again for the night of the 7th. You can take the list inside on the morning or evening of the 8th. Put your list somewhere sacred and each New Moon when writing your new moon list compare your old list and mark off what you've already received. Over time you will see that all things have come to you according to divine timing.
It's simply fabulous, so easy and doesn't cost a thing besides consciousness.Happy Manifesting!
Sunday, October 3, 2010
And suddenly something happens that rips you apart. It happens so fast that you're in shock and disbelief.
"What just happened!?" you wonder, along with, "What did I do wrong?"
And no matter how much you look for answers there aren't any that justify the loss of the promises that were created in heaven.
But instead of welcoming him home I have no choice but to see the him float away out into the big sea - the person you loved so much, your best friend, the person you wanted to come home.
You wonder what fearful voice got into his head to let him paddle back into the big sea and get lost once again. Perhaps that's simply the only place where he'll find himself. There is nothing you can do but let him go and wish him well.
Then I remembered that my power isn't even sufficient enough to hold my ponytail in place for the day as it inevitably falls victim to the laws of gravity. So who am I to want to control someone else, let alone who that person can and cannot love?
Love is a matter of the heart. And yes the heart is deceitful above all things...
So what remains is the trust and faith in being divinely guided and protected to ultimate and true love.
So if it seems that it has been taken from you or that it has evaded you - don't fret - it wasn't yours to begin with.
Perhaps he was just an appetizer with the real main course and dessert still coming (now there's a thought!).
So hold on to love by BEING LOVE.
"Love does not come to you from your horizon, love spreads from within you far beyond your horizon." Lao RussellAnd true love shall find you when you first emanate love from within. That I promise.
Thursday, September 30, 2010
A few weeks ago I had a discussion with someone about living in the light versus living in the darkness. He was concerned that he would continually attract dark people, people he called 'the devil.' He wanted to know how to protect himself from attracting people like that in the future.
There are a couple of reasons people attract dark energies. One being that you emanate dark energy yourself and 'birds of the same feather flock together.' Another being that you are attempting to walk in the light but are not doing so fully yet. You wobble. Hence the darkness is after you with a ferociousness before you make a commitment to fully walk in the light.
There is nothing that gets the dark side angrier more than a person who wobbles between the light and dark who finally commits to walking in the light at all times. This means a huge loss for the dark side.
And nothing pleases the dark side more than swaying a person who attempts to work for the light back over to work for the dark. Converted wanna-be light workers are their most powerful workers because they have 'tasted' the light but the dark has won them over. These are the people that can easily masquerade as angels of light. These are successful people, often leaders. These people can come to a church gathering or a meditation or prayer circle, they may even be healers - all in the name of being a light worker. But they're not. And their truth as workers of the dark eventually reveals itself through their actions.
They may use sweet words, at least for a while, and their actions may be exemplary, they may even be leaders, at least for a while. They don't have to look like this portrait of darkness on the outside (although they do on the inside), they can actually look quite appealing on the outside. Remember, it's a masquerade. Over time anyone working for the dark side will have to scatter like a roach in the presence of light, because the light starts to burn them and make them feel so uncomfortable that they can't help but scatter.
Time is our greatest revealer (and greatest healer as well). Do not trust anyone who says they are of the light but watch their actions instead.
People of the light are kind and full of love, grace and forgiveness. Always. Especially when they are hurt.
People of the dark are kind and full of grace and forgiveness also but only until they are hurt and feel pushed in the corner. Then their real Self comes forward. And ugliness, revenge, foul language, back stabbing, and all the other lower realm energies that goes along with darkness, are not far behind.
Darkness will always scatter like a roach - no exceptions.
If you're wondering what side you're working for, then you're probably wobbling or working for the dark side. Also check the trail of broken (and dead) hearts you left behind you. Another sign you may work for the dark side.
Light illumines your flaws like a magnifying glass and those of the people around you as well (that's why they scatter like roaches when they come in contact with you).
There are many ways to check and see whether you or someone you love works for the dark side or the light side.
- Light doesn't hold on to old pain and certainly never runs back to old, negative behavior (especially not after having let go of it). Darkness would be the instigator of such behavior.
- Light never makes life altering promises it can't keep. Darkness loves making and breaking promises, especially those that rip another human's spirit in half.
- Light confesses the slightest indiscretion and seeks forgiveness daily. Darkness doesn't think twice about indiscretions, in fact it can't really tell the difference (oblivious comes to mind).
- Light is humble and never arrogant. Darkness is self-serving first and foremost.
- Light is never masochistic but always compassionate.
- Light doesn't feel the need to be cynical but is gentle instead.
- Light never tears down but always builds up. No exceptions. Even when roads come to an end and feelings are hurt, light knows how to build up the other person (in spite of the demolition that is taking place). Darkness on the other hand is worse than an elephant in a china store, it uses a wrecking ball across your heart.
- Light always trusts and knows that it can't fail because it is divinely protected and guided - always.
- Light never has to prove anything, it just is.
This blog has strong tendency to attract light workers but a few others have found their way here. Perhaps to find strength to make a decision to work for light once and for all. May love wrap you like a thick and protective blanket whether your hell may be freezing cold or burning hot.
Light workers, all you have to do is hold your place in your evolutionary journey. Be lit up from within, love, forgive and have compassion on those who are not there yet. And yes, the heart ache comes with the territory. King Solomon said: "With much knowledge comes much suffering."
Trust that time will bring to light what needs to be brought to light.Because light and love never fail.
More readings here about ghosts and such.
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
It's an interesting time for women in their 40s to date men. There's a reason an entire new 'category' of women has been created - she's called the 'Cougar.' All fun aside, let's look at reality.
Women in their 40s indeed can easily date a man who is 10 years younger or 10 years older. But let's look at these men a bit closer. Let's take a 45 year old woman who is looking at a 35 year old potential mate and another one who is 55 years old. Now let's remove the woman out of the equation and look at the two men: One 35 years old, the other 55 years old.
There is a world of a difference. And it's not only the 20 years.
A man in his 30s may not have had children yet and may not even have been married yet. He's truly at the beginning of his adult life. The 20s are really years of practice for adulthood. He just completed the age of feeling invincible, which is what I call the age between 20 and 30, and he's now ready to conquer the world, especially the financial world. He's full of zeal and ideas and his go-getter attitude makes him unstoppable. At least that's what he thinks. He may have had to experience some form of loss in life, but he doesn't quite understand yet that all of life is about heights and valleys (bliss and loss) and keeping the ultimate balance. A life partner and family to him look like a great idea but he doesn't yet know what it actually means to have someone's back or to make co-decisions with another human being. He may ask for true love but even if it was delivered to him on a silver platter, he would make excuses why he can't accept it just yet. All of his decisions right now are for him, and him only. Even after crushing someone's dreams and vision, he can't figure out how to be kind because life is still all about him. He still does stupid and unkind things, like break up with someone via e-mail or text message. For now, this life partner is just a great idea. Life to him right now is about money and 'making it' - whatever that means to him. If I had to summarize a 35 year old I would say: "He talks way too much and even might talk a good talk. But his actions differ from his talk and it is in his actions where he shows who he truly is."
The man in his 50s has most likely had children and they're probably all grown up and moved out. He's probably had at least one marriage and knows what it means to go through thick and thin with someone. He's learned not to make promises that he has no intentions of keeping. He's not about money anymore, whether he has it or not, he knows that life is about love, health and happiness. Money and the chase that comes with it has somewhat lost its appeal. He's most likely lost a business deal or two, or a few millions, and been stabbed in the back by a best friend once or twice. He knows there is no perfect person but he knows there is a perfect person for him. His zeal is no longer beating for work and making dough, his passion is for true love. He's been in a marriage before that has failed, for whatever reason, and getting another chance at marriage and partnership means getting another chance at life. He will do whatever it takes to protect the sanctity of that partnership, because he's been searching for it for more than half a century. This man knows his time is limited, he's in touch with his mortality and those of his friends and family. Invincibility has long left him. Oh, and yes, he's most likely past midlife crisis (which I call the second teenage years).
A man undergoes major life changes multiple times over between the ages of 35 to 55. It's not just life experiences, it's more than that. I compare it to Abraham having reached the land flowing with milk and honey.
A man who grows through this period with grace and honor has a foundation that has no fracture but is solid and graceful. A true rock that is steady.
If I had to summarize a transformed man who has truly come into his own in his own in his 50s it would go like this: "He's a true king, always treating everyone else like royalty, no matter what. His actions always, always back up his promises and he never makes promises he can't keep."
If I had to summarize a transformed man who has truly come into his own in his own in his 50s it would go like this: "He's a true king, always treating everyone else like royalty, no matter what. His actions always, always back up his promises and he never makes promises he can't keep."
In the end the question becomes:
What do you want for yourself?
Where are you as an experienced and probably accomplished woman in her 40s?
What can a 35 year old give you that a 55 year old can't (and visa versa)?
And then again, in the end it's all about love.
True love doesn't know age, color, height, looks, size.
True love conquers all. True love never fails.
And as long as you keep your mind open for true love, the right partner will be revealed to you and you shall know how to proceed.Remember, it's not about the man or how old he is, it's not even about you - it's always about true love.
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